128: The Fertility App That Actually Works With Your Body
For so many of us, our bodies became a mystery after loss.
Cycles that were once predictable suddenly shift. The trust we once had in our bodies—shaken. And when doctors suggest hormonal birth control or fertility treatments as our only options, it can feel like we've lost even more control.
But what if there was a different way? A way to understand what’s happening in your body. To read the signs. To know what’s normal—and what isn’t. And to feel like you're back in the driver’s seat.
This is exactly what the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) offers.
It All Started with a Book That Changed Lives
If you've ever heard of Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, you know this isn’t just another book on women's health. It's a guide, a blueprint, and for many women, the first time they were truly taught how their bodies work.
For Jennifer (your podcast host), this book wasn't just informative—it was life-changing. It gave her the tools she needed to conceive her second son without invasive fertility treatments. It gave her clarity—and a sense of control at a time when things felt very uncertain.
Now, nearly 30 years since the book’s release, Toni’s niece Sabrina is helping carry that mission forward—with a modern twist.
From Legacy to Innovation: How Cyclisity Was Born
Sabrina grew up celebrating her body. Literally.
Each year, her aunt Toni took her out to lunch on the anniversary of her first period—not as a joke, but as a way to celebrate womanhood and body literacy.
That reverence for the female body led to something big: the creation of Cyclisity, an app designed to be the perfect companion to Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Built by a small, self-funded team (including Sabrina and her husband), this app honors everything Toni taught—without compromising privacy, data integrity, or education.
Where many fertility apps rely on predictions or generic algorithms, Cyclisity supports true body awareness, running the scientifically backed Fertility Awareness Method rules in the background as you chart your signs.
Why This Matters for Loss Moms
If you've experienced a stillbirth or any kind of birth trauma, your cycle may feel unfamiliar now.
Maybe your periods are unpredictable. Maybe you’re terrified to trust your body again. Maybe you're not ready for another pregnancy—but also not sure what your options are.
That’s where FAM and Cyclisity can be life-changing.
Because rather than relying on someone else to tell you what’s “normal,” you begin to understand your own patterns. You start to listen. To learn. And to gently rebuild trust in the body that’s carried so much.
And that kind of empowerment? It can be healing.
But Wait—Is This Just the Rhythm Method?
Not even close.
The Fertility Awareness Method is not the outdated rhythm method your grandmother might’ve used. FAM doesn’t rely on predictions—it teaches you to track daily, real-time signs from your body, like:
Basal body temperature
Cervical fluid
(Optional) Cervical position
When these signs are recorded consistently, you can tell whether you're in a fertile window today—not based on last month’s cycle, but on what your body is telling you right now.
This is especially crucial after loss, when stress, grief, hormone shifts, or even changes in sleep and travel patterns can dramatically alter your cycle. A predictive app just can’t account for that. But you? You can—when you know how.
Learning the Method: What You’ll Need
FAM isn't hard—but it is a new skill. Like learning to ride a bike, it takes some time. But once you know it, it becomes second nature.
To get started, you’ll need:
A way to track your basal body temperature (either a thermometer or wearable device like TempDrop)
The ability to observe and record your cervical fluid throughout the day
A resource to teach you the rules, like Taking Charge of Your Fertility or a certified FAM instructor
An app like Cyclisity to chart and help interpret what you're seeing (without doing the thinking for you)
The Cyclisity app is special because it doesn't try to replace your knowledge—it enhances it. It runs the Four FAM Rules in the background and tells you how each day is classified, but always encourages you to understand the why behind the classification.
A Safe, Private, Data-Respecting App
In a world where women’s health data is often monetized, Sabrina and her team made a powerful decision: Cyclisity is self-funded. That means no advertisers, no data selling, and no outside pressure to change the app’s mission.
Your body is private. Your fertility data should be too.
Who Is FAM For?
Whether you're trying to conceive, avoiding pregnancy, recovering from loss, or simply wanting to understand your body better—FAM is for you.
It’s especially empowering for women who:
Can’t tolerate hormonal birth control
Want a natural, science-based method
Feel disconnected from their bodies post-loss
Want to gently prepare for another pregnancy with more awareness
Crave a sense of control in a time that feels uncertain
Start with the Book. Use the App. Learn Your Body.
If you’re ready to stop feeling betrayed by your body and start feeling connected to it again—this is your invitation.
You don’t have to go it alone. The combination of Toni’s book, the Cyclisity app, and a supportive community can give you the tools and confidence to move forward—not by rushing past your grief, but by learning how your body works now.
This isn’t about “fixing” you. You’re not broken. This is about listening to what your body’s already saying. And trusting that healing, knowledge, and power can live side by side.
You Are Not Alone. And You Are Not Powerless.
Every time you track a sign, notice a shift, or connect a dot—it’s a step toward reclaiming your body and rewriting your story.
Whether you're avoiding pregnancy, preparing for it, or just trying to understand yourself again after loss, the Fertility Awareness Method can be a powerful part of that healing.
And you deserve tools that were created with your story in mind.
Want to Learn More?
📚 Grab the Book: Taking Charge of Your Fertility
