Rooted in Faith: Preparing for Birth After Baby Loss (115)
If you’re pregnant again after loss—or even just thinking about the possibility—it’s completely normal to feel terrified. For many moms, the idea of planning for birth feels almost laughable after already living through the worst-case scenario. Why would you dare to hope again? Why would you plan, when last time your plans fell apart?
In this episode of the Navigating Baby Loss podcast, I spoke with Lauren Murdock—an experienced labor and delivery nurse and founder of Faith > Fear Birth, a faith-based childbirth course designed especially for Christian moms. Together, we explored the emotional complexities of giving birth after stillbirth, how faith can play both a confusing and comforting role, and how preparation—even after loss—can be a powerful act of healing.
Why Birth Education Matters—Even After Loss
Lauren has spent over a decade in a high-risk hospital setting and has seen firsthand how unprepared many families feel walking into labor.
“I want women to feel like they had a say in their experience,” she said. “Not that birth was something that happened to them.”
For loss moms, it’s easy to feel like birth has already betrayed you. But understanding what to expect in your next birth experience can help reduce anxiety and build a sense of control—even in an unpredictable environment.
Holding Grief and Faith at the Same Time
One of the most powerful parts of our conversation was about the tension between faith and loss.
After experiencing her own infertility and miscarriage, Lauren shared:
“I truly believe God grieves with us. That He didn’t cause your pain to punish you... and that you don’t have to hide your heartbreak from Him.”
This kind of honesty is essential for moms navigating their next pregnancy after loss. Faith might feel fractured—but it can also become a source of deep comfort if you let yourself wrestle, question, and still trust that healing is possible.
The Rooted Birth Method: A Map for Faithful, Intentional Birth
Lauren’s course introduces a concept called The Rooted Birth Map—a step-by-step framework for preparing spiritually, emotionally, and physically for birth. And unlike check-the-box plans, this one meets you right where you are, especially if your journey includes grief.
Here’s what the Rooted Birth Map includes:
Renew your mind with truth – Scripture and journal prompts help reframe what you believe about your body, God, and birth.
Open your heart to God’s presence – A reminder that God is with you—even in the fear.
Own your preparation – Learn about your options, understand your body, and feel equipped.
Train your body and mind – Breathing, movement, and decision-making support.
Equip your support team – Ensuring everyone in the room knows your story and needs.
Dwell in His peace – A practice of grounding and prayer for labor, postpartum, and beyond.
And yes—this includes practical steps like what to tell hospital staff, how to advocate for yourself, and how to choose a provider who can support your emotional needs too.
Creating Sacred Space in the Hospital Room
Lauren also shared a powerful story about a time she unknowingly selected a giraffe-covered baby blanket for a family whose lost child had loved giraffes. They all saw it as a sacred “hello” from heaven.
“Even in the moment of absolute hurt, there were still glimpses of heaven.”
These tiny signs—those gentle reminders—are often what carry us through when the weight feels too heavy. And preparing for those moments is part of healing, too.
Infertility, Loss, and the Fear of Trying Again
Lauren’s journey wasn’t without pain. She shared how it took over two years of infertility and a heartbreaking miscarriage before she finally gave birth to her daughter. And how in the midst of that struggle, she questioned her body, her faith, and her future.
“I was a labor nurse—I thought I would be prepared. But nothing prepared me for the emotional and physical pain of miscarriage.”
So many moms will see themselves in her story. The fear of trying again. The guilt for feeling hopeful. The exhaustion from waiting. But also, the sacred power of surrender. And how beautiful things often come not instead of pain—but alongside it.
Planning for Birth After Loss—Is It Even Safe to Hope?
For many stillbirth moms, the word “plan” can feel triggering. But Lauren offers a reframe:
Planning isn’t about controlling the outcome.
It’s about preparing your heart, your mind, and your support system—so that no matter what unfolds, you feel held, grounded, and surrounded.
And in Lauren’s words:
“You don’t do this alone. You do it with your team, with your community, and with the Lord.”
A Free Prayer Journal for Expectant Moms
Lauren also offers a beautiful free 5-day pregnancy prayer journal, filled with devotionals and gentle prompts to help you connect with God throughout pregnancy—especially when you’re navigating fear, anxiety, or uncertainty after loss.
You can download it here: laborlauren.com
You Are Not Alone in This
Whether you're preparing for another birth, feeling confused about your faith, or just looking for someone who understands what it means to grieve and hope at the same time—this conversation is for you.
You don’t have to be fearless to prepare for birth again. You just have to be willing to let love, faith, and intention lead the way.
